When Things Change

When you imagined where you would be at this point in your life, what was it like? Is your reality anything like your fantasy? If it is, then was it the easy path you imagined or were there lots of twists and ups and downs?

I never imagined I would be a military wife.

I never imagined I would be a preacher’s wife.

I never imagined I would still be living in my hometown.

I never imagined I would have 3 sons.

I never imagined I would have experienced a miscarriage.

I never imagined I would teach in different schools.


I do imagine that you have some similar statements and could add to the list.


In our lives, we have many transitional experiences.  You may not be familiar with the term transition.  When I am teaching my writing classes and we are learning about transitions, I tell them that transitions move us from one idea to another.  So, in our lives, transitions move us from one way of life to another.






More children

Job change


All of those are times of transition and thus, can be a trigger to our angry reactions.  Those times cause us stress. Those times change our routines.  Those times challenge us in our relationships with Christ and our family members.  In this chapter, Amber said, “When we are going through change, go to the ONE who never changes.” When our lives change, we need to keep our eyes on God.

Malachi 3:6 says, “For I am the Lord, I do not change; Therefore you are not consumed, O sons of Jacob.” This verse reminds me that I do not have to be consumed by the change around me because God never changes. He is always faithful.   (2 Timothy 2:3)

malachi3During these times of transition when it seems our only reaction is anger, we need to consider these questions:

Am I being selfish?

Do I desire an easy life?

Do I resent where God has led me?

When we consider these questions, it will help us put our eyes back on God. He never takes his eyes off us.  When our eyes are on Christ, we are led by him, not our emotions. And y’all, I’m an emotional person.

I’d like to share part of an old blog post with you. Please bear with me.

 Do you have a thing that brings your comfort?  Something that just makes you feel good?

I have a thing for coffee cups.

They bring me comfort.

I can get up in the morning, open my cabinet and be drawn to a cup.  Freaky, I know.  I have favorites. My Relay for Life cups. My Navy Pier cup. My cup covered in gold stars. My Psalm 118:24 cup. My Space Camp cup (boy, did that one get this mama through a week of Space Camp last summer!).

Basically for whatever season we are having, there is a cup. For whatever mood I’m in, there is cup. For whatever I’m going through, there is a cup.

At least so I thought.

Recently, I opened my cabinet door and just stood there.  I didn’t have a cup to match what I was feeling. I didn’t have cup to match what I was going through. Choosing a coffee cup that morning was hard. And I cried.

To help me find what I was looking for, I ordered one with Carson’s artwork from school (hopefully it will arrive one day) and one with Colin’s artwork from school (Colin saw it and made me wrap it up so he could give it to me for Christmas). I had hoped those would help me out.

I got about 5 new Christmas coffee cups from students yesterday.  But I also got this one from Angela who works in my classroom. It reminded me of something very important.


What I was searching for that morning wasn’t a coffee cup. My joy doesn’t come from a coffee cup. My joy comes from Jesus.  I was searching for Him.  Regardless of the weather, my mood, or my circumstances, Jesus never changes.  His love overflows from my cup. He has come so my joy may be full, no matter what coffee cup I am using.


I wrote these words during a time of transition, during Jeff’s deployment.  I had taken my eyes off God briefly and allowed my emotions to get the best of me.  Yet, God used my friend Angela and my love for all things coffee to get me focused back on him.  1 Corinthians 15:58 reminds us that when we labor for the Lord, our labor is not in vain.  These times of transitions are not in vain if we allow Christ to lead and guide us.  And in these times of transition, we should give thanks.  1 Thessalonians reminds us to give thanks in ALL circumstances. Not just the good times. ALL times.


Are you in a state of transition?  What are your needs right now that we can pray about?


What can you find during this transition that you can be thankful for?


Are there any other verses of scripture that you’ve hidden in your heart to guide you during these times, to keep you focused on the One who never changes?


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